Don't even think you can trump me by saying that I'm guilty of this. I know. THis is actually a fence around speaking lashon hara (gossip, slander, criticism, you know) but I feel almost guilty about a few things I've been saying lately.
Introduction
Avak Lashon Hara refers to speech which incites the speaking of actual Lashon Hara. Avak means dust, symbolic of the dust that gathers on one's shoes and clothing as he travels.
1. What is Considered Avak (dust) Lashon Hara?
Some things are forbidden because they are Avak Lashon Hara (traces of Lashon Hara - it can incite speaking of Lashon Hara). For example, someone might say, "Who would have expected So-and-So would be like he is today?" or, "Stop talking about So-and-So, I don't want to tell you what's going on with him," and other such statements.
Furthermore, praising someone in front of a rival is also Avak Lashon Hara, because it will cause the listener to disparage the subject. (Note: From this we learn that other conversations are forbidden, such as simply mentioning the name of someone about whom the listener is likely to gossip.) Excessive praise is forbidden even if the listeners do not dislike the individual, because it is common to end off such statements with criticism, such as "except for his negative character trait of...." or that the listeners will respond, "Why do you praise him so much when he has such a negative trait...."
2. Speaking in Public
The above [not giving excessive praise, since it could precipitate Lashon Hara] applies when not speaking in public. In public, however, it is forbidden to praise a person at all, because in a group of many people it is common to find people who distort facts or act with envy, so that by mentioning someone's good points it brings about disparaging talk.
(Note: If however, one knows that the listeners will not speak negatively about the subject, for example if they don't know him, it is permissible to praise him, so long as it is not overdone.)
If one wants to praise someone who is known by all to be a good and righteous person in whom no evil or culpability is found, the speaker may even praise him before his enemies, for they will be unable to disparage him. Should they try to speak unjustly of the subject, everyone will know that they are wrong.
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